to throw their weight around, if they have any weight to throw. Carol’s
criticism of Henry at his classroom door is a classic example and the work of a
master player. Mrs. Markowski, in one short burst, puts Henry in the position
of student with her as teacher. She threatens to have his contract non renewed
. Additionally, she gives him what the
students would call an after-school detention. Finally, she lets him know she
can and will tear his lesson plans into little bits. Given the opportunity,
faultfinders like to get people into trouble – a natural for the school
principal. It also is an effective way to put the president of the union in his
place while she is at it.
probably no hope for any of them.” This tidbit from Carol’s thoughts is a
telling sign of her qualifications as a faultfinder. She is always ready and willing
to be critical of anything and anyone. The successful faultfinder never forgets
that the world is full of things and people to analyze and criticize.
faultfinders have made a giant step once they simply assume people are going to
screw up sooner or later. It also helps if the eager player believes others are
doing it just to give him a bad time.
Doris gives you a
good example of the technique. In the middle of saying something else, she
says, “It’s just a few who are making us all look bad . . . .” The
point is that any time Doris looks bad, someone did it to her. This is what
advanced faultfinders call a position of perfection. No matter what they do or
do not do, they do it well. Any problems are someone else’s fault.
provide many examples of The Frustration Factor. Carol Markowski just shakes
her head and thinks, “It’s understandable why education is going downhill
when you have to deal with people like that.”
that” is a key to her success as a player. It is obvious that she puts
most people into the category and changes the definition of like that as she
goes along. She does this even if sometimes the people are only twelve years
old. Intolerance and an unwillingness to accept people as is make it much
easier to be critical.
For those who
elevate faultfinding to an Olympic-class sport, it is necessary to be stingy
with praise. Skilled players keep the focus on problems, negatives, and things
going wrong. This includes anything from the important to the trivial, from the
essential to the irrelevant.
Henry shows you
how to use the play with style. He does not even need to have an opening.
“I don’t think six and nine is anything to brag about.” Henry has as
much potential as Carol Markowski, given more experience and practice. He comes
straight out of left field.
A close look
clarifies the technique. Pick something, anything the person may value that is
not going well, e.g., Greg’s basketball team. Pounce on that since it will
hurt, and then stress how it is as bad or worse than the problems the
faultfinder is having. “You are worse than I am.” That is Henry’s
point. The underlying game is to play one up even if the player has to admit
Ilene, the special
education teacher, demonstrates a related technique with style. Even her
efforts to compliment have a backhanded quality. They are the type of
compliment that makes the recipient say, “Thanks, I think.”
“With no more experience than Greg has, I think he is doing all right.
That goes for Henry too. He’s a teacher and can’t be expected to know anything
about running a union.”
Two phrases tell
the tale: With no more experience than Greg has and he’s a teacher and can’t be
expected to know anything. Her point is that were Greg more experienced or
Henry not just a teacher they would function more competently. It would not be
surprising to see her walk over and pat each of them on the head and say,
“It’s all right. I know you’re trying.”
Doris is not to be
outdone as a first class faultfinder. “It’s time to put the responsibility
directly on the people who are causing the problems. We all know who they are
too.” It is certain enough to take to the bank that who they are excludes
Doris and probably everyone else in the room, unless someone leaves. If someone
walks out, they can count on joining Doris’s who they are group.
seldom pursue their game on a face-to-face basis. Behind-the-back makes it much
easier to avoid anyone’s directly contesting or rebutting what they have to
Henry wraps the
faultfinding demonstration up in style. It is no wonder he qualifies as a
faultfinder complete with professional credentials. Listen to what he says.
“I know people have bad days but that’s no excuse. They have to do it
right every time.” Henry is the keeper of the standard, the last supporter
of perfection. From that perspective, it is easy, nay unavoidable for Henry to
be anything other than faultfinding. He is just doing what comes naturally for
saints like him and Carol Markowski.